Dear Reader,
“When we dismiss people and ideas because the entire world doesn’t agree with them, we get to be right. But we also get to stay empty inside. By dismissing what could work, we dismiss our own growth. We dismiss what’s possible.
“It doesn’t matter if the book you read and love is loved by anyone else. It doesn’t matter if the teacher you admire is admired by anyone else. It doesn’t matter if the healing method that worked for you doesn’t work for everyone else.
“What matters is you. Your happiness. Your health. Your healing. Your well-being.
“The truth is, no method works for everyone. No teacher is right for everyone. No book is going to inspire everyone.
“It all comes from within. You are the first and final authority on your life.
“Rather than dismissing what is possible so that you can be right, what can accept so that you can grow?
“Dismissing is often a way to deflect the messages. It’s a self-defense mechanism. If you dismiss the book, idea, or method offered to you, you get to be right – and stay right where you are.
“Dr. Richard Gillett, writing in his wonderful book, Change Your Mind, Change Your World, states, ‘Disapproval is, surprisingly, the most reliable indication of a hidden belief system. Quite often the only way disguised beliefs show themselves is through moments of emotional judgment or disapproval.’
All the successful people I know have accepted new tools into their lives over the years, spent thousands of dollars on personal growth and self-study, and never regretted any of it.
“The key is not dismissing, or disapproving, but digesting.
“For example, Nerissa and I had dinner with friends recently. One friend was complaining about her job. From her perspective, there was no way out of the misery she felt at her place of work. Bad boss. Bad hours. Bad pay. You name it, it was bad.
“Later, we were joined by other friends. As ‘chance’ would have it, one of the new friends had connections where our complaining friend worked. He gave our unhappy friend a name, and said he could help her resolve her issues. He went on to say that this connection was a supervisor, head of many departments, and could probably resolve whatever was wrong.
“I was stunned. So was Nerissa. We were seeing magic happen right before your eyes.
“But what did our unhappy friend do with here new lead and new hope?
“She dismissed it.
“She didn’t write down the name or the number, or show any signs that something wonderful had just occured.
“Do you see how this works?”
Joe Vitale from The Attractor Factor